I saw you that day

That day 

I saw you that day,

You were coming,

Back then I found anything can be loved,

That day I knew when my heart flutter,

How it feels like, liking someone, But I couldn't help it, Because I solemnly hate physics, Then looking at your wrist watch, I hope a day will come, When we'll together see the skys, You'll amuse by seeing the stars, And I'll by seeing your eyes.

Ripping the sun rays,

Shining in a denim,

Touching your hair the wind blew,

Annoyed you took a halt there,

Caressing your hair slowly,

You looked at your shoe pair,

A shocking face threw,

You were being late,

But I was falling in you,

Again I saw that night,

Crescent moon light kissing thou,

My heart just skipped a beat,

When you held my hand and said "Let's go", We were walking in the same road,

But our destination made us separate,

Still I was not worried knowing the fact,

That I was being late,

Even that day when,

It was heavily pouring,

You were dipped in water, But I still found you charming,

You'll find everything better,

I want to be the book,

You always held beyond limits,

 

  @kirti__243 

@psychology.ofmind 

i hate you but

I hate you but 

All along I hated you

For all the promises

You made and failed to do.

I wonder from time to time

That I was really silly to

Believe you were all mine.

I was on the edge of letting you go

But who knows destiny has

Other plans to throw.

Coincidentally we crossed

Our path again.

I saw you and my heart sank

Without wasting a second

I turned away.

Still you acknowledged loudly

From the back.

I can’t afford to be weak

So I greeted back with that 

Fake smile on my face.

You passed from my side without

Even enquiring how was I?

While here my silly little heart

Was waiting that at least you should

Explain all your lies.

I too moved on thinking someday

It’s going to happen anyhow.

But your love was so cruel.

In spite of all of that

You still gave me such a hard time

Sitting in front or beside

Me all the time.

Did you really wanna be with me?

Or examining my patience giving me

All those trial and tribulations

From time to time.

I skipped many days to avoid your face.

B'cos to stop the pain, I know

It’s better to part away.

Time flew away and so did the love

You were there but not like before

To afflict me anymore.

I never understood you quite well

You needed space and still

Wanted to hold on

Interpreted from all the messages

You had sent all along.

I ignored it all bcoz I had nothing

To do with u anymore.

One day you called again and again

Even when I didn't receive 

You had guts to call my friends

And asked them to call me

To at least receive his call

As you had something

Important to say.

I convinced myself that

No matter what my heart says

My mind is not going to surrender again.

So I called him and asked

What’s the matter in that

Strange voice of mine.

Without greeting he told

Me to return all that stuff

That belongs to him.

As expected he really changed a lot!

And it’s a fact I accepted a long ago.

Soon I realised

It’s better to let him go with

An open heart this time.

While returning the stuff you told me

It’s the only excuse to meet me.

I just pretended to be ignorant

Until he taunts me

It’s good to see me more

Happy with someone else.

I understood he was talking

About my old friend that moved

Into the town few months back.

I replied so why was he being

Jealous when he is only the one

Who turned away.

Out of nowhere when

I saw into his eyes

His eyes were full of tears.

And with those eyes you told me

How much you loved me

And only me while doubting

It’s not the same for me

I was just quite to hear

All that you had to say.

He admitted his mistake and stated

All his personal reasons

He was being that way.

Continuing all along he tried

To explain but the problems

Were holding him back.

At last you said you can’t tolerate

Anyone by my side so you started

To sit in front or beside.

Complaining why I were

So ignorant all the time. 

He sweared how much he cared

Spying at me all the time

And told I should have known how

Much I meant to him.

I interrupted him to say

It’s good to hear what you had to say

Now it’s time for me to go away.

I wished him best with his life a head

Stating lets be friends if we

Crossed our path again.

Deep inside knowing I can’t give

Love another chance to kill me again.

 there is something sometimes we want to be together with that person who is not with you and who is not value you really but not with them it's also gives you happiness that there is no longer to hurt you okkk 

So god have a better plan than what you are planning for yourself 

Keep shining 

I trust you 

Your worth 

And you are deserving for better than this 😊❤️

     By psychology of mind

how break up feels like

How does break up feels like 

 Top of the list when it's comes to mental health concern

So after depression , anxiety if there is something 

The tops on the list is  relationship concerns

What break up feels like 

The reason of talking about the break up I thought that's the most difficult for anyone who is suffering or dealing with break up and in that they are not able to understand how they are exactly feel like ....

I really don't know how break up feels like but one of my friend I saw him when he had a breakup 

Who dealing with the relationship problems 

One day he came to me and

The first thing he told me that his chest actually pain 

The break up had just happened and he had actually physical pain he said he crying for some days ,he feels like worthless since the break up happen 

And he had not been eating ever ense

he looked at me and he asked me do you think I am making all of this can a break up lead to all of this 

The answer to all of these yes break up can lead all of these

Breakup when they happen that can affect physically , mentally, emotionally and multiple ways 

What one needs to remember is how the break up happens

In very few cases 

Break up is mutual and amicable that's okay in that also sometimes for a after few we feels like hurting and than just moved on wih this feeling  

Most of cases one who really wants break up and one who really wants to work upon a relationship 

Otherwise break up happens in very strange ways like bitrate and there somebody who has costed  someone and their parental pressure

 one of them feeling they are checked out completely mentally and emotionally there could be many a  reasons 

There is something what led to the break up is what decides the intensity what a break up looks like 

About how people react is proven its something like when a break up happens the body reacts in a manner is similar way to how body reacts when you trying to give up a drug addiction which clearly make sense 

Because if you are dating someone ,you have been a long enough time there is a intimate bond formed for a years which healing itself and now to let go ....

The body would end up reacting with withdrawal like  symptoms 

So the physical symptoms can couse weight loss and gain 

It could lead the tightness in chest 

It could lead to palpitation  for some breathlessness , not being able to sleep 

And in for some cases the immunity drops

They may have headache don't seem to go or fever

Which has lasted for days

Some of the emotional reactions to a break up is lot of time when you have not been prepared for it 

It's feels like numbness ...happening

Trust me feeling like Numb it's pretty normal it's just your body want to adjust with this feeling and wants to feel normal 

And there is guilt / lonelines because our mind  reminds ourselves when used to be together hanging out with each other , feeling worthless when passed through those beautiful memories that time it's hurts, deep inside pain is feeling comes all over again 

And social media also remind and pop about the person what we trying to avoid to reminds like facebook book memories ,pictures ...

This things will haunting when you badly trying to avoid such things 

There is so many things  mentally , psychology , physically , emotionally  we feel in break 

But there is only way to recover ourself 

With --

Initial acceptance - This can feel more like surrender at first. Finally giving in to the terms of the breakup. Overtime this will change. While the pain may still be present you can see the relationship more clearly, accepting each person's role in the relationship, the good and the bad.

 Hope - THE BEST STAGE! You see a picture of your ex, you don’t feel so much anymore. You go out with a friend and realise you are enjoying yourself (not just tolerating it like you had been). You can feel it, YOU ARE MOVING ON.

These stages are not set in stone. They are just the current conceptualisation of grief post break up. It can’t tell you how you will respond. Also, its not necessarily linear. People go in and out of phases and sometimes round in circles. However, its a good start when thinking about how you are feeling and why you might be feeling it.

Furthermore, when you date someone for a while you incorporate them into your sense of identity. Following a break up you can feel confused about who you are. A literal piece of your identity has been torn from you. So don’t be surprised if you feel like this. Recovering will involve reconnecting with, and rebuilding your personal identity.

What you can do to help - the traditional suggestions

Surround yourself with loved ones. You don’t have to talk or be good company. Friends and family reconnect us with ourselves. They remind us we are lovable. They cause a release of endorphins (feel good hormones), and at the moment this can only be a good thing.

If there is no-one you feel you can talk to, write it down. Journal about your emotions. Research shows significant positive effects of journaling during times of challenge. It doesn’t have to be pretty. It doesn’t even have to make sense. Start with… ‘today I felt’ or ‘when …(insert event) happened I felt’. Then just let it flow. Whatever words and thoughts come up. Write hard (or soft, however you feel) for 20 minutes. Finish it with three positive sentences to yourself. Something soothing. Something you have noticed about yourself that's a strength. Words of encouragement. Then re-read it and tear it up. OR don’t!

Be kind to yourself. Give yourself time. Try not to set dates or timelines for your recovery. Timelines will only make you feel worse if you don’t ‘snap’ out of it in the way you hoped.

Get active. This could mean using exercise to trigger endorphins and metabolise stress hormones (see this post for more information). It could mean scheduling your day around the patterns you see arising. For example, if you know that you feel worst in the mornings, go for a walk to get out of the house when you wake up. Meet someone. If you can’t sleep, make sure you are busy during the day and keep a book or crossword next to your bed at night. 

Notice self-criticism. Notice any time you blame yourself, list your shortcomings, call yourself names or recall rejections. Doing this is like taking a hammer to a broken limb. Your brain is already running on a survival response. This only activates that further. When this happens think about what you would say to your friend. Say this to yourself instead. You could even write a letter as if to a friend in this situation. Then read it.

Learn how to self soothe. See these two articles for self soothing tips: one and two.

Avoid the things that you know make you feel worse. Such as checking your ex's social media or walking past their place repeatedly.

Set boundaries. If your ex keeps calling you or won’t go away. Assertively state that the relationship is over and you need time apart to heal.

The rebound  - The less conventional route 

It’s the question we have all thought about and on some occasions we have done more than think about - Should you get under another to get over your ex?

Legend says no. Google this. Psychologists almost unanimously agree that this is a bad idea. The traditional belief being that you will transfer your feelings for the ex onto the next. Making you imagine you feel more for this new squeeze than is real. Expectation is therefore that if you get hurt, it will be doubly bad.

Another fear for this is that you will use the new relationship as a form of revenge. An action that will foster your feelings of hurt and add more negativity to the split.

However…

What if i told you that research does not support this? That there is actually evidence to the contrary? Would you race out to your nearest bar, grab your dating apps?

The research team that investigated this found that rapid engagement in a new relationship did not correlate with negative outcome. Instead it lead to increased reports of wellbeing and self-esteem. The people who engaged in rebound relationships were not only more likely to be further along the path to detachment from their ex, but they also felt more desirable and more sure of their sense of identity than those who did not engage in a rebound.  However, feelings of desire for revenge were the same across both groups (rebound did not change this!).

The researchers reasoned that the positive findings could have occured due to the rebound relationships meaning minimised disruption to social lives, less time spent worrying about the meaning of the breakup and the link the breakup had to their personal worth.

Now… I don’t think the take home message from this is go find yourself a rebound. I think the take home message is that as long as you surround yourself (from the moment of, or shortly after, the breakup) with people who make you feel good, remind you that you are desirable, fun and worthwhile. The ones that keep you busy and enaged… then your self esteem will be buoyed and you will be fine (or you will get back to fine more quickly).

That’s it 

For anyone living through a break up right now… I hope you are doing ok. I hope you have a good support network and people to turn to. You are going to be fine, it just sucks (understatement) right now.

Fun fact… in the long run, personal growth is commonly associated with break ups: including increased independence, healthier behaviours, more active social lives, better relationships with others. So, maybe your friends and family were right. Maybe it will be ok.

Take care of yourself 

There is one thing I want to tell you 

People will come and go 

What's matters it's you 

You are important for yourself make yourself happier untill you are    

             By psychology of mind

no one can fake mental illness

No one can Fake A Mental Illness

- They Fake Being 'Okay:

- - They smile when going through hell

- They say "I'm busy" when having a mental breakdown.

- - They joke and make others laugh because they know what it's like to feel nothing. 

- They empower others in their low moments because they know what it's like to feel worthless 

- - They work hard and uphold their responsibilities only to collapse when they get home. 

-- sometimes they get nervous about what's going on but still they don't show

- They always care for others because they know what it's like to struggle in silence.

Often their biggest fear is being a burden so if someone does reach out, please don't dismiss them for attention seeking. It's because they really need support. 

It's okk we are a human 

--- it's ok to have a mentaldown, 

Please just don't unpack and live there 

Cry it out and then refocus on where you are headed 

You know what some people are just they wanted to feel really "okay" 

Not pretending .. what they are doing right now

 There is something good about those  people who are suffering from mental illness

 They are not able to see people suffer the way the do

As the great Mahatma Gandhi said to the world, “Do or Die”, life is always a do or die situation. Every moment and every second count. It decides our present and our present actions decide our future. Life is not always easy. It is different for each and everyone living in this world.

Everybody struggles with their own hardships and hurdles. These hardships are the defining factors of one’s life. They shape a person into what they are. They always come unexpected and leave an unchangeable mark in our lives.

Our daily lives are filled with inspirational stories about hard times. Hard times a person go through serve as the root cause for their motivation and inspiration in their life. Their stories never fail to amaze and inspire millions of people.

   Be kind

           Be humble 

               Might be today is not yours 

                       But tomorrow you can make it

                            I trust you😊 

       By psychology of mind